Re-training Mr. Spoiled Brat

June 21, 2010

It’s been two months since I moved here in Singapore, but it actually feels like two years!  Is that good or bad?  Oh well…  :)

If I were to put a title or theme that can summarize the last 60 days of my life here, I’d call it “Re-training Mr. Spoiled Brat”.  Apparently, I am the Mr. Spoiled Brat!  After a long period of enjoying a very comfortable life in the Philippines and in Indonesia, I felt and witnessed the meaning of hardwork and perseverance all over again.  Not to mention, the feeling of really sweating (literally and figuratively) on a daily basis to do daily tasks, tend to my personal needs and perform well at work.  Here are some specific examples that can showcase my re-training:

1.  Doing a long walk (relatively speaking), riding public buses and the MRT has been a way of life.  I miss having a chauffeur-driven car, or at the very least my own car that I have an absolute control of.

2.  Performing the household chores like cleaning the condo, laundering/ironing clothes, cooking and washing the dishes on my own.  I miss having a maid or a cleaning lady who used to do these practical jobs for me.  Yes, I can hire some house help here, but the service is pretty expensive – I might end up not saving any money at all!

3.  In connection with the last sentence in #2, everything is way too expensive here.  Case in point, a pack of Marlboro Lights is 10x the cost compared with the price in Manila or Jakarta, a grande Hazelnut Latte at Starbucks is 50% higher, taxi service is 200% pricier and apartment rental is 4x the cost!  Hence, if these were part of my “basics” before, some of it may now be considered a luxury!

4.  I used to have more time for myself.  Now, I only have the weekend for myself (well, that is if I am lucky not to have any disturbance due to weekend work which sometimes is inevitable due to the nature of the industry where I am in).  Since weekdays are well-packed with work, which extends to 12 to 18 hours daily, I am practically dead when I get off the office.  The only thing that I am longing for after work is my comfy bed and soft pillows!

5.  I’ve been accustomed to having a fairly wide network of family and friends that I can immediately get hold of after only one text message or phone call.  While I have a constant companion here and my weekend sked has always been filled with visitors either from Manila or Jakarta, I also miss that level of security of having those preferred people around.

This entry may appear to have a lot of angst, but then again, I am rising above the negativity and looking at it constructively.  I know that this is given to me because I need it!  Life is not all about ease and convenience.  It should go beyond what is physically perceived, given that at the end of the day, building one’s character is more important than just simply drifting everyday without any challenge at all.

Thus, doing a re-training and fulfilling the mission of unlearning some unnecessary things may be mandatory to make Mr. Spoiled Brat a better person.  He may be having some difficulties to cope at the moment, but he will strive to thrive.  Knowing that he is a great fighter, surrendering is not an option that he would consider.  As we all know, there is always what we call “birth pains”, yet once the stage has passed, everything else would be peanuts!  :)


Images of Farewell

April 5, 2010

As mentioned in my previous post, I have recently concluded my advertising agency stint in Indonesia.  Prior to my flight back home, the few remaining weeks were filled with “images of farewell” that depicted my attachment and appreciation of the life I have lived and the people I have built deep connections with over the last (nearly) two years.  Here are some of the snapshots:

Last KTV session with the singers of the Accounts Team

With my ever reliable Cara and Dhanny...

With the "humor in my life", Sari...

With the "pumping queen", Dessy...

With the "lady rocker" Dianna...

With the newbie Dewi...

Last dinner with my so-called clubbing/chill-out friends in Potato Head...

After dinner, straight to Blowfish of course...

The first couple of people that I went out with back in 2008...

Last traditional lunch with the team...

Last dinner at BIN17 with Pinoy friend, Berna...

Last dinner at The Apartment with ex-Account Director-currently-close-friend, Sinta...

Last office lunch courtesy of Riyas... your Nasi Uduk is really to die for... I'm missing it already!!!

Last dinner at FJ Bistro with the best client ever, J&J Indonesia...

Photo op for the ceremonial gift giving! :)

Last booze night at Tabac with Dila, John and Nadia...

Last dinner at Social House with my favorite couple, Maira and Adwin...

Last dinner at Cafe Batavia with a few of my favorite people...

Last Padang lunch at Sederhana with the whole Accounts Team...

Last ride with my ever reliable and sleepy Pak Darmo...

Last house party with the whole gang in my apartment...

Thank you guys...

Terima kasih banyak, teman teman! :)

For more pictures, check out my Facebook albums…


finding more kababayans

May 3, 2009

 

over a period of 9 months, i only came across one filipino in my apartment complex.  unfortunately, we didn’t have a chance to get each other’s contact details as we just accidentally bumped into each other in the building’s lift.   

on my way back to indonesia from my easter vacation, i had a very quick exchange with this guy who is also set to fly to jakarta while queueing for the owwa certification in terminal 3.  fast forward to my arrival in my apartment lobby in jakarta, the same man that i was talking to in naia 3 was also entering my apartment’s lobby!  we then figured out that there are 3 pinoys living in casablanca mansion!  so we just exchanged numbers and promised to get in touch with each other should there be pinoy gimmicks in town.

that weekend, he then invited me to meet with the other pinoys in our area.  compared to his pinoy network, mine is just very few – if i were to count, i only know less than 10 pinoys here.  that weekend turned out to be a filipino community weekend for me and it did turn out quite fun and interesting – watched a batik fashion show (as the shop owner’s husband is pinoy), tried out a new korean resto, drank vodka tonic til dusk and enjoyed a hefty brunch the day after.  but in a nutshell, it’s still the company of people (whom you know has the same mindset as yours) that marked the fun difference.  would definitely hangout with these people again!                

 

new found pinoys in jakarta
new found pinoys in jakarta

 

at belagio's batik fashion show
at belagio’s batik fashion show

 

with john, leah, billy, malou & richard @ hang gan korean resto

with john, leah, billy, malou & richard @ hang gan korean resto

 

 

portobello night

portobello night

 

sumptuous buffet brunch at scusa, intercon

sumptuous buffet brunch at scusa, intercon

 

 

 

 

 


defining “homesick” sa kontekstong pinoy

April 2, 2009

the blog entry title would speak for itself. perhaps, if you’re in the middle of work pressure, stress, boredom and feeling that everything turns out to be a routine – homesickness would eventually step in to make matters worse (i.e. if you are thriving in a foreign country). just to vent, here it is…

1.  lahat ng nakikita mo sa paligid mo, agad mo nare-relate sa mga bagay sa pinas. halimbawa, habang nasa kalye dito, kapag nakakakita ako ng mikrolet, jeepney ang naaalala ko; pag naman warung, karinderya sa kanto; mga naglalako ng soto at prutas, fish at squid balls!

2.  gusto mong tumawag, mag-text, mag-ym at mag-email sa mga tao sa pinas, but you end up not doing so dahil alam mong mas malulungkot ka pag nag-uusap na kayo ng tuloy-tuloy.

3.  lagi mong tinitingnan ang kalendaryo para alamin kung kelan ang next long holiday at binibilang mo kung ilang araw ang natitira bago ang bakasyong ito.

4.  pinupuntahan mo ang cebu pacific website para malaman kung may piso fare promo para kahit one weekend lang e makauwi ka, kahit at your own expense.

5.  tuwing sabado o linggo, nagluluto ka ng adobo o sinigang dahil miss na miss mo na ang luto ng nanay mo, katulong nyo, karinderya sa kanto o ng gerry’s grill.

6.  senti o eraserheads ang mp3 tracks na pinapakinggan mo habang nagtatrabaho ka sa opisina.

7.  dati, baduy na baduy ka sa mga pelikulang tagalog, pero ngayon tuwing may pagkakakataon, pinupuntahan mo ang free tagalog movie website para manood ng mga pelikula ng star cinema – kahit alam mo na ang kabuuan ng plot (since pinoy movies are always so predictable), pinapanood mo pa rin ito mula umpisa hanggang katapusan at napipikon ka pagnakikita mo ang “buffering” sa screen at napuputol ang panonood mo.

8.  pagnagdadasal ka sa gabi, kung dati e english mo itong bigkasin, ngayon e tagalog na. sabik na sabik kang gamitin ang wikang pambansa na dati e di mo ginagamit ng straight since kalimitan laging taglish ang ginagamit mo.

9.  kalimitan kang mag-crave for chickenjoy ng jollibee. para masagot ang craving mo, pupunta or magpapadeliver ka ng manok sa mcdo, pero pagkatapos mong kumain, madi-disappoint ka kasi hindi yun ang lasang hinahanap-hanap mo.

10.  binabalik-balikan mo ang mga photo files na naka-save sa laptop mo. kahit paulit-ulit mo na itong tinitingnan, di ka pa rin nagsasawa na panoorin ang mga litrato habang napapangiti o natatwa ka.

11.  kung pikon na pikon ka na sa opisina, napapa-mura ka ng ”putang ina” instead na ”shit”.

12.  consciously or unconsciously, naipapasok mo sa casual conversations kausap ang mga foreigners ang mga salitang: ”oo nga”, ”sige”, ”ano” at ”hay naku”.

13.  naiingit ka pag may nababalitaan kang kababayan mo kung nasaan ka na magbabakasyon sa pinas

14.  nagsusulat ka ng entry sa blog mo tungkol sa pagiging homesick katulad nito.

yun lang.


happy birthday to me!

March 29, 2009

i’m a sucker for celebrating special occasions in grandiose ways – be it christmas, new year, birthday, anniversary, valentine, and all other possible events that are somehow commercially manufactured by the overly enterprising society – call me stupid, but i am a willing victim.  this thesis statement is clearly magnified last 21 march 2009.  

it would be the first time for me to celebrate my birthday away from home.  annually, this momentous occasion has been a huge deal for me – i guess, after i celebrated my 7th birthday, i did not stop commemorating the commencement of my existence thru parties with family and friends.  so as not to break the tradition, or should i say, to not feel pathetic and depressed for being in a place where the people that you would want to be with are not with you, i planned a party to start having a blast on my last year in the 20s bracket.  thanks to my ever supportive staff who have helped me in finding the best place to have dinner and drinks.  so, 3 days before the eve of the big day, i sent this “trying to be creative” casual invite to 27 agency people:

save-the-date

instead of partying on the day itself, i decided to hold it on the eve of my birthday so that when the clock strikes 12 midnight, i would not find myself in my quiet apartment wrapped by the cold comforter that i’m now accustomed to snuggling into.  the celebration started in a casual dining resto in senayan called “penang bistro” where we feasted over malaysian food (the roti and mango chicken were great!).  after a couple of hours, we headed to a comfy club by the lake (artificially made) named “public” where various drinks flowed – jack daniels, jose cuervo tequila, absolut raspberry, carlsberg and a whole lot more.  

then the moment came!  at exactly 12 midnight, my lovely team handed me a gift that they forced me to open and eventually wear – it was a set of indonesian national costume accompanied by a shirt which has “kutu kupret” embroidered on it – this was one of the first few bahasa indonesia terms that i learned, which apparently is a bad term (not really a curse, but more like a condescending term).  after all the laughter, the cake with candles came in and the customary “happy birthday” song was sung in unison.  yeah, it was indeed touching (for a cheesy person that i am, yes it is) – the efforts of these people to please a stranger (who sometimes makes their lives miserable at work) would really be unforgettable.  the gesture showed that i may be a filipino, but i was made to feel very welcome to embrace the culture of the country that has been a temporary home for the last 8 months (by the way, on the exact day, it was also my 8th month in the stint that i’m currently fulfilling).  drinking, posing for photos, dancing and everything else in between ended at 3:30 in the morning.  i then found myself in bed at four in the morning.  some preliminary pics below – more to come within the week (hopefully if i’d get hold of all the photos in various cams used that night!):

 

dinner time...  kailangan parang class picture!

dinner time... kailangan parang class picture!

 

kailangan tabihan ang mahihina kumain para maraming matira para sa kin!  wahahaha!

kailangan tabihan ang mahihina kumain para maraming matira para sa kin! wahahaha!

 

with my very efficient dinner planner :)

with my very efficient dinner planner :)

 

chillout by the club's artificial lake

chillout by the club's artificial lake

 

chatting with ton & dil

chatting with ton & dil

 

while being forced to open the gift!

while being forced to open the gift!

 

while being forced to change from my usual to the indonesian costume - great idea party planner, cara!

while being forced to change from my usual to the indonesian costume - great idea party planner, cara!

 

in the costume with adwin & kabayan maira

in the costume with adwin & kabayan maira

 

thanks guys!  :)

thanks guys! :)

lo and behold – after only three and a half hours of sleep, i was awaken by a call from a client who wanted to arrange a meeting with the agency team at 10 in the morning – that same day which was my goddam birthday!  arggghhh!  so obviously, i had no choice but to abide by the code of client servicing.  after dragging myself to the shower, while still having a terribly heavy head – i found myself in cibubur (east jakarta which is kinda far already) to discuss with the client team.  moments passed and i have just  realized that there goes half of my birthday!  after the dreadful meeting, i decided to call home – while talking to my mom, dad, bro and sis-in-law, i suddenly felt the blues.  that was a defining moment for me – i.e. in the context of knowing what “homesick” really means.

to further heighten the melodramatic mode, i decided to pay homage to god for giving me the opportunity to wake up that morning and start another year in this so-called life.  as usual, the mass was celebrated by the local priest that i don’t really like (reason being, his sermon lacks depth, meaning and applicability).  while the greetings from family and friends back home and here flooded my mobile phone inbox and facebook wall, i can’t help but still feel a little depressed, so i ended up indulging into a retail therapy that led me to buying myself a well-deserved (yeah, a bit rationalizing now) birthday gift made by steve jobs – which i am using right at this moment (if you don’t know what it is, then go figure) – it’s one of those things that i’ve been dying to have to complete my apple collection.  did it ease my discomfort?  well, in a way yes as i found myself so damn busy playing with it the night of my birthday – such a good toy that allowed me to have some sort of a diversion.  hahahaha!

bottomline lesson learned from this experience – since i intend to retain my expat way of life, perhaps in the next 5 years still, i should mandate myself to go home on my succeeding birthdays, or at the very least, spend it with loved-ones that will make the day happier and much more meaningful – unless i want to get into grand purchases that may again be heavy in the pocket.  i’d definitely choose the former next year!  


city-hopping in indonesia

March 3, 2009

(note: this is a very old story already – if i remember right, it was last january, but given my long absence due to crazy work sked, it’s only now that i found the time to post it…)

it’s been more than two weeks since my last post – needless to say, there’s no other reason for the absence but the busy schedule at work. well, the past couple of weeks had been very eventful – another roller coaster ride that’s worth writing about – at least there was some sort of a consolation.

i spent 18-21 january in a city-hopping tour in 3 areas in indonesia that i have not been in. it was a market visit for a client wherein the primary objective is to have an in-depth knowledge about the consumers in the specific locations, and at the same time, see the retail environment so as to further align our communications strategies and tactics in building the client’s brands.

first stop was pekanbaru. the place resembles small cities in mindanao where islam is well-entrenched. to me, it’s like zamboanga, a quiet and small community that projects simplicity and humility – the people are generally timid and soft-spoken, but has that ready-smile to make you feel their warmth and sincere hospitality.

san ka pa?  nagbebenta sila ng mga "puki" dito sa side streets!

san ka pa? nagbebenta sila ng mga "puki" dito sa side streets!

usual padang food, pekanbaru style

usual padang food, pekanbaru style

from pekanbaru, we flew to batam. this place amazed me – i felt like i was not in indonesia! it was clean and things seem to have order (relatively speaking). this place is well-known as the country’s industrial zone with ports that separate indonesia from singapore by only an hour. perhaps it’s one of the reasons why it has some sort of similarity to singapore. i learned that using the route jakarta-batam-singapore is a cheap way to reach singapore, only a domestic plane and a 45 minute ferry ride amounting to approximately php 6k. not bad right?

napaaga kami ng dating - next year pa daw dapat pumunta!

napaaga kami ng dating - next year pa daw dapat pumunta!

the place separating jkt from sg by 45 mins!

the place separating jkt from sg by 45 mins!

kainan

kainan

ang isdang maanghang!

ang isdang maanghang!

ayam bakar - ang sarap nito dahil gutom ako!

ayam bakar - ang sarap nito dahil gutom ako!

last in the list is padang. for me, the main attraction in this stop is the food as i learned to appreciate and love padang food (karinderya food sa atin, kumbaga) that regularly patronize in jakarta. going around the place is like traveling the rural areas of laguna. yet, the funniest thing happened to me in this place! in one of the houses where we conducted the consumer interviews, i was asked by this certain grandmother if i want to marry know her granddaughter and eventually marry her! not only that, as being circumcised is important among muslims, she candidly asked in front of more than 20 people in the group, if i am circumcised! bwahahahaha! since i received a tip from my officemate to be careful in this area (kasi dito daw yung may mga mangkukulam), i cheerfully (and proudly) said that i was “cut” when i was 8 years old. that experience was really hilarious that i won’t forget it in my entire life!

first time to use mandala - not bad, nakarating naman ng maayos kahit paano...

first time to use mandala - not bad, nakarating naman ng maayos kahit paano...

ang moske

ang moske

ang totoong padang food

ang totoong padang food

ganto ang mga bubong nila - kwento daw ng dalawang torong nag-giyera yan!

ganto ang mga bubong nila - kwento daw ng dalawang torong nag-giyera yan!

ang landmark ng bukitinggi

ang landmark ng bukitinggi

parang nasa tagaytay lang ako!

parang nasa tagaytay lang ako!

with kabayang zu!

with kabayang zu!

with emcee and our tour guide (nakalimutan ko pangalan nya!)

with emcee and our tour guide (nakalimutan ko pangalan nya!)



hell on earth

January 17, 2009

yung post title na yata ang makakapag-describe nung work experience ko ng nakaraang linggo. dalawang araw akong nagtrabaho ng halos parang doktor, 18 hours and 17 hours respectively – from 9AM to 3AM ng wednesday at from 930AM to 230AM ng thursday! more than the physical exhaustion, ang mas nakakapagod pa siguro e yung emotional repercussion of it – nakaka-frustrate na actually – it came to a point na gusto ko na lang iwan lahat at mag-resign dahil sa pagod at kapikunan!

totoo nga yung sinabi nung isang pinoy na nakilala ko dito, hindi yung skills mo ang mate-test or mahahasa, kundi yung endurance mo to go over all the challenges na pagdadaanan mo dahil na rin sa mga kakayahan at ugali ng mga ka-trabaho mong lokal. una, ang layo ng competencies ng mga tao dito kumpara sa pinas, I was able to prove na hindi language ang barrier, kundi ang pag-iisip at kakayanan na ng utak talaga! hindi sa nang-mamaliit ako, pero ito talaga yung katotohanan. ang mahirap dito, yung mga boss ko na foreigners e nage-expect na kailangang ma-manage ko ito, not to mention, to achieve the output desired. so ang katapusan, ako nanaman ang gagawa ng lahat – simula sa konsepto, intelektwal na stratehiya, pati na rin grammar! sabi nga ng executive creative director namin na galing london, mabuti pang tanggalin na lang ang lagpas benteng lokal sa grupo at palitan ng kahit lima lang na expats galing pinas, australia o singapore, mas gagaan pa ang trabaho! nakakatawa, nakakaawa, pero totoo talaga!

buti na lang kahit paano mejo nakaka-distansya ako sa mundo ng trabaho at i still get to ground myself to the reality that there’s a bigger world outside of my agency work. kahit naramdaman kong kulang ang 24 hours sa isang araw last week, nagawan ko ng paraan na makapagdasal at magpakatatag sa pamamagitan ng pagkausap sa diyos ko. alam ko naman na mga pagsubok lamang ito dahil inihahanda nya ako sa mas mataas pang katuparan ng aking mga ambisyon sa buhay – kumbaga, training lang ito for bigger things in the future for me to handle them well – tsaka sabi nga nila, how can you feel and achieve bliss without understanding pain and sacrifice. works well in words, but really difficult to sustain as a mindset especially if you’re in the middle of the challenge. buti na lang, sabado na at kahit paano, may mga good news din naman na nakapagpasaya sa akin:

1. i’ll be going out of town again starting tomorrow to do market visit in 3 other cities of indonesia – padang, palembang, batam. ang sarap isipin na sa anim na buwan na andito ako, anim na lugar na rin sa labas ng jakarta ang nakikita ko – bandung, Surabaya, bali at ang tatlong areas nga na nabanggit ko na. more than work, i view this as an opportunity to see and learn new things – at sobrang napapasaya ako ng mga ganitong travel.

2. may promo ang cebu pacific from manila to jakarta from 20-24 feb, dahil jan tatlo (so far) sa mga kaibigan ko ang confirmed na dadalaw sa akin dito! excited na ko! pressured nga lang ako to make sure na maganda ang magiging itinerary nila – especially sa lugar na halos puro malls lang ang pedeng puntahan, kailangan kong mag-research kung saan ko sila dadalhin.

3. magkakaroon na ako ng kapatid na babae – well, in-law for that matter, at magkakaroon na rin nga ako ng first degree pamangkin as my li’l bro getting married soon.

yan ang naging buhay ko noong nakaraang linggo. hopefully, magiging mas maganda next week!


kwentong ahensya 105: ang pinakamahabang linggo sa buhay ahensya

November 8, 2008

matapos ang tatlong buwan at dalawang linggo, sinubok ang tatag ko sa sitwasyong pinasok ko – ang pangunahing aspeto kung bakit ako narito: ang magtrabaho sa isang advertising agency.

di na bago sa akin ang sinasabi nilang di pagkakasunduan at awayan sa loob ng ahensya, maaring dahil sa trabaho o sa kung anu-ano pang mga bagay. alam ko ito dahil na rin sa kwento ng mga taong nakasalamuha at nakatrabaho ko noon sa pinas. akala ko noon, exaggerated lang ang mga kwento dahil parang yung mga tipong napapanood mo lang sa tv o sine ang mga kwento nila, pero nagkamali ako, totoo pala lahat at ang nakakatawa pa dito, naranasan ko ang mapagitna dito!

noong nakaraang linggo, naghahanda kaming lahat para sa 2009 communications plan ng isang kliyente na may tatlong pangunahing brands. bilang csd, responsibilidad ko kasama ng mga account directors ang siguraduhing lahat ay gumagalaw para sa lahat ng kinakailangang output ay lumabas. dahil dito, sa mata ng mga tao sa creative, strategic planning at media department, para kaming mga pulis na naninigurado na sumusunod lahat sa batas. ang mahirap pa dito, hindi lahat ay cooperative – reklamo dito, reklamo doon! nakakapikon pero kailangan mong tibayan ang dibdib mo. tatlong araw, kinaya kong maging mabait at huwag kumibo, pero nung ika-apat na araw, di ko na kinaya at sumabog na lang ako. sa unang pagkakataon, nakipagbulyawan ako sa mga tao sa nabanggit kong departamento sa harap ng general manager at president director namin. dalawa kami ng account director ko na salimbayan sa pakikipag-away at pakikipagsigawan para ipaglaban ang kailangang gawin at tapusin ng mga pagod na ring mga tao ng ahenysa – pero di naman syempre namin pwedeng sabihin sa kliyente na pagod na ang lahat kaya hindi nagawa ang kailangang gawin. buti na lang, natapos ng mapayapa ang presentations – malayo ang mga ito sa pagiging perpekto, at kung ako ang kliyente, di ako ganoon ka-kuntento, pero ang importante, marami akong natutunan sa limang araw na nagdaan sa realidad ng bagong buhay ko sa adverstising agency, karamihan ay praktikal pero mas naintindihan ko nung naranasan ko mismo:

1. being mr. nice guy is applicable in building rapport, but not necessarily in making others follow your directions (professionally speaking) – matapos ang halos siyam na taong pagtatrabaho ko, naranasan ko na ang magiba-iba ng management style to get things done and to lead teams – maging mabait, maging kupal, daanin sa pagiging kaibigan, magpaawa, mag-bribe, mag-reward, manakot, at kung anu-ano pa. pero sa pagpunta ko dito, sinabi ko sa sarili ko na magiging mabuti akong tao sa lahat ng aspeto lalu na sa trabaho at pakikitungo sa iba, personal man o propesyonal, mr. nice guy kumbaga. umubra ito sa mga simpleng gawain at masarap ito sa pakiramdam, pero kung tipong dibdiban na, maaring hindi na ito mag-work. pangit mang pakinggan at hindi ko ito gustong gawin, pero tipong kung gipitan na at puro katangahan, reklamo at katamaran pa rin ang nangyayari, kailangan na ng dahas – masagasaan na ang masagasaan, pero kailangan maging matigas para makuha ang kailangang resulta.

2. intimidation is key for you not to be pushed around – isa pang nakakalungkot na realidad na nakita ko. palakasan ng boses, pataasan ng ihi, kanya-kanyang hugasan ng kamay at turuan kung sinong mali. at ang nakakapikon pa dito, ang mga pangunahing taong gumagawa nito ay yung mga nasa itaas, at halos lahat sila ay yung mga puti (hindi sa nagdi-discriminate ako) na ang tingin ata sa mga sarili nila ay regalo ng diyos sa mga asyano na kung tratuhin nila ay mga bobo at inutil – sa larangan ng trabaho. pero sa obserbasyon ko, magaling lang lumusot at mambola ang mga hinayupak, pero di naman talaga sila ka-galingan! so para mag-survive ka, kailangang tibayan mo ang dibdid at sikmura mo, lumaban ka sa kanila (magbaon ng maraming malalalim ding ingles na salita para mataptan mo kahit papaano ang statements nila kung wala kang twang), matuto kang mamutol ng statement at makipagsabayan sa pakikipagsigawan, at gawin ang lahat ng ito na poker face ka at di nagpapahalatang pikon na pikon ka na. projection lang ang labanan kumbaga.

3. in the middle of tough situations, the ”real” person comes out – ito ang nakapagpainit sa akin ngayong linggong ito. meron ba namang nung gipitan na ay lumabas ang pagka-ahas ng hinayupak! para maisalba ang sarili sa mahirap na sitwasyon, bumaliktad at nagtanga-tangahan kahit may napagkasunduan na. traydor ang putang ina! blessing in disguise na rin, ngayon, alam ko na kung sino ang mapagkakatiwalaan at hindi. at isa pa, mahirap palang magtiwala talaga – nasa gitna na ako ng mga taong may pinag-aralan ha, pero meron pala talagang mga taong gagawin ang kahit ano para lang di mapahamak sa mata ng iba.

4. as a leader, you need to empower your people – aminado ako, i’m still infected with the feeling-superman syndrome. yung tipong inaako ko ang mga trabahong pedeng gawin ng staff dahil na rin siguro sa takot na di nila magagawa ng maayos at tama, so might as well ako na lang ang gumawa para alam kong talagang magagawa. pero, mali talaga ito e, paano na lang sila matututo ng tamang trabaho at paano rin ako matututong mag-set ng tamang direksyon kung patuloy ko itong gagawin? yeah, next time, di na ako magma-micro manage at mas hahabaan ko pa ang pasensya ko para hayaang matuto ang mga taong katrabaho ko.

5. i have to accept it, i’m now a man and no longer a boy – maaring sa edad, medyo napaaga ako sa pagtanda sa trabaho, pero, ganun talaga, dapat kong tanggapin na pinasok ko ito at dapat ko na rin itong panindigan. at dahil din dyan mas matitinding challenges at pressures ang haharapin ko pa, dapat na lang tingnan ito ng positibo para na rin sa personal growth ko sa lahat ng aspeto.

buti na lang, bago magsimula ang lahat ng ito ay nag-over dose ako ng self-help books at patuloy akong nakikipag-usap sa diyos ko – isinuko ko na lang lahat at di pinabayaan na for these things to steal my joy.

sabi ko nga sa facebook status ko over the past few days, “joseph carries a thought balloon which says: don’t sweat it, there’s a bigger world outside work!”. at the end of the day, god will not measure me based on the amount of money i made from working, nor based on the designation that i reached, but on the basic intangible things that really matter. ito na lang ang pina-aalala ko sa sarili ko sa gitna ng lahat ng kaguluhang naranasan ko.

at sa wakas, friday night na ngayon – weekend na ulit, sa wakas, natapos na ang pinakamahaba kong linggo sa trabaho! sigurado, marami pang mga susunod na mahahabang linggo, pero ang importante, alam ko na kung paano gumalaw at ilagay ang sarili ko sa mga pagsubok na ganito – simply put, just always take the high road and you’ll never get lost nor go wrong!


first out-of-jakarta-within-indonesia experience: bandung (a.k.a. to me as subic and tagaytay combined)!

November 8, 2008

last sunday, the team went out-of-town for a personal/pleasure trip (personal expense as well). around 25 of us (from accounts, creative, production, i.t. and office administration) rented a tourist bus and went straight away to bandung at 6:30 in the morning.

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i was pretty excited since it was my first time to get out of the hustle & bustle and traffic & pollution of jakarta, not to mention that it was also my first time to join the whole team (almost) in an “outing”. since i didn’t know what to expect, i just enjoyed every single moment – upholding the mantra that i’ve long aspired for, i.e. “carpe diem”!

the atmosphere while in the bus is also like a typical pinoy excursion – ang mga kalog na personalidad ang live entertainment sa kanilang pagpapatawa – jokes (from the most wholesome to the sleaziest) were thrown to keep everyone laughing to death (thanks to my seatmate who patiently translated everything to me – kawawa naman sya – bwahahahaha!), may baon ding pagkain ang lahat para habang umaandar ang bus ay busog, we also stopped in a gas station with a convenience store para mag rest room at mag-yosi, after the laughter died down a bit – natulog din ang iba, meron ding mga nakasaksak ang ear plugs to hear music from their ipods, others are playing psp games and some are into sending ym messages or surfing thru their blackberry units. bottomline, very pinoy talaga ang eksena (just discount the fact na iba ang lenggwaheng gamit).

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after almost three hours, we finally got to our first stop – rumah mode, a factory outlet. it’s the typical factory outlet like those in subic and also california’s gilroy, where branded stuff are sold at almost half (or even more than half) the price – polo, hermes, zara, abercrombie, armani, hugo boss, tommy hilfiger, quicksilver, rip curl, adidas and a whole lot more! sa pagka-overwhelm, dampot na lang ako ng dampot! bwahahahaha!

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next stop is to have a quick coffee fix in a place called java coffee. first time to taste the real javanese coffee! since i’m not a hard-core and discriminating coffee drinker, twas just the same to me – nothing spectacular!

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then lunch came in next. this turned out to be one of the most interesting experiences in this trip as we had it in a side walk – glorified real street/native food. i had sate ayam with lontong (ata, nakalimutan ko na name – basta, para syang suman!) and tehbotol – the bottled tea na parang national drink ng indonesia (lasang gumamela, pero i’m starting to appreciate it – acquired taste kumbaga).

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after eating, we went to another strip of factory outlets. ang dami nila at tabi-tabi pa – para silang nagkalat na sari-sari store! i literally got tired of flipping hangers! wahahahaha! so yun, panay ang kaskas ko ng debit card – got a total of 8 shirts, 2 board shorts, 2 casual shorts, 2 pairs of shoes and 1 jacket! waaaahhhh!

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after raiding all the shops, we went to this place called prima rasa where we got oleh-oleh (pasalubong sa tagalog). they sell pastries and other local sweets – parang colette’s sa atin. ang mga binili ko naman dito e layer cake, wafer-like na instead cream ang laman e pressed cotton candy, chicharong paa ng manok at intestines, at flat barquillios na gawa sa matamis na saging! nakalimutan ko na ang local names nila e! hahaha!

dinner time… we went to this very nice place na nasa taas ng bundok! eto na yung what i said was like tagaytay. since nasa bundok sya at medyo umulan, malamig talaga. if i were to compare it to a place in tagaytay, para syang pinaghalong sonya’s garden at bag of beans na nasa bundok! in addition to the very nice ambience, masarap din ang pagkain – roasted chicken, crispy tilapia, veggie salad, jasmine tea at salabat in the end! yummy! i sponsored the meal for everyone – my way na rin of saying “thank you” to these people who welcomed me and had been so nice to me over the last nearly four months. bukod sa nasarapan at nabusog ako, mas naging masarap ang pakiramdam na na-appreciate nila kahit paano ang small effort na pinakita ko. saya!

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then we headed back home to jakarta and arrived past midnight. pagod ang lahat kaya tahimik na ang bus, siguro dahil din sa realidad na kinabukasan, trabaho nanaman! pero ang importante, everyone had fun – to prove it further, the following day, the team’s planning for the next outing, and i’m so up for it as i’m looking to see more of indonesia – bali, lombok, bogor, puncak, surabaya, yogyakarta, etc! it’s a way to also indicate that i’m working to live and not living to work! :)


email to dad, mom & bro

November 1, 2008

Hi Dad/Mom/VJ,

Hope everything’s well there!

It’s 01 November now and they don’t celebrate Halloween here – it’s against their belief system ata. Just a trivia, I just found out na sa Moslem belief pala, pag namatay ang isang tao, kailangan ilibing within 24 hours – so walang lamay or intayan ng mga kamag-anak not present, libing agad within the same day na namatay yung tao! Maybe that practice has something to do with their not celebrating All Souls Day.

Anyway, I deposited funds for November yesterday in our BPI USD account. Nakakainis lang coz the USD significantly went up over the last 2 weeks, I suppose the same situation there. Hence, bigger amount in Rupiah but equivalent to less USD. But it’s okay, maybe the US will weaken its economy again after Obama/McCain wins! Hahaha! So the breakdown of the fund will be as follows:

Total amount transferred: approx USD XXXXX

For my bills: XX%, approx USD XXXXX

For family fund: XX%, approx USD XXXXX

For tithes: XX%, approx USD XXXXX

Mommy, for my credit card bills, kindly allocate the biggest amount to the one which has the biggest outstanding balance – I’m not sure which but just look at the billings, if I’m not mistaken, the HSBC or Citibank Visa. Kayo na bahala sa allocation.

Daddy, I heard from Mommy na namatay na pala si Lola Coring. I’ll just pray for the repose of her soul. By the way, advance happy birthday! :) If there’s something that you need to celebrate your birthday with family/friends/colleagues, just align with Mommy and get the funds from our account. Any thoughts on the business idea I mentioned the last time? No rush, but if something comes up, just let me know. I played tennis pala ulit last night – I guess I improved a bit from the first session – in addition to palo palo of my forehand and backhand, I was trained na ulit to do volley, smash and service. Hopefully next week I’d get even better.

VJ, just see you again when you’re online. Good luck with your interview on Monday. Let me know kung ano mangyayari! At for your info, pumayat na talaga ako at madami nakakapansin sa office – from my 205 lbs weight when I got here, I just tipped the scale the other day in the gym and I’m now only 185 lbs! :P 20 lbs in 3 months is not a small feat ha! Hopefully when I get home there by Christmas, I can reach my target of 165 lbs and 32 waistline from my 34-36 now! Hahahaha! If not, abangan mo next year.

Also nga pala, my flight details for Christmas break would be as follows:

Arrival: 23 Dec, Tue, 5:25 AM, Flight 5J760, NAIA3 via Cebu Pacific

Departure : 02 Jan, Fri, 8 :55PM, Flight 5J759, NAIA3 via Cebu Pacific

I’m using Cebu Pacific again coz when I booked the flight last month, wala ng available flights in PAL and Singapore Airlines during the Christmas week – whether I go home by 15 Dec or by 26 Dec! Since the holiday in our agency will start only on 25 Dec, I can’t take the very early flight. Buti na lang, when I checked Cebupac, meron pang seats available for 23 Dec. So, I will just see you again in NAIA3 on 23 Dec – same time with the last time I went home last Oct.

I’ll be hearing anticipated mass later at 4PM and drop by Carrefour for my usual weekly groceries. Will stay at the apartment for the night and sleep early coz I will be going to Bandung early morning tomorrow (6AM) with some officemates. The place is a town 2-hours away from Jakarta, from their description, para syang Tagaytay natin, malamig daw kasi, maraming masasarap na food at may mga factory outlet shops ng branded stuff! :) Next weekend naman, I will be flying to Surabaya, another city outside Jakarta for a radio show of a client – it’s quite far so we need to take a 45-minute flight by plane. Will take pictures and will make kwento on my experiences in these places on my next email.

By the way, attached are some pictures from the party I attended last Sunday with some office friends and acquaintances. It was held in a function hall fronting a beach called Segarra. The party was hosted by Marlboro and more than 3,000 people attended! I was supposed to meet Gretchen there coz her agency was handling Marlboro, but she decided not to attend later that day. It was fun naman, at least I can balance work and fun in my life here.

Also, last Thursday, we implemented an agency orientation with one of our clients. Most attendees were first jobbers – ok naman, at least in an indirect way, I still get to practice my passion for teaching. Below are some pictures as well.

That’s it for now muna. Missin you 3! :)

Ingat,

JA/Kuya


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